On a Saturday night, a girl goes out, and has too much to drink, ending the night lying on the street next to her own vomit. She later learns that people (and maybe news crews) were taking pictures of her, until her friends chased them off. No, its not a scene from a movie like “Thirteen,” it happened this year…after Endymion, on Bourbon Street.
In the GNOA, any person who has grown up or has even lived for only a year or two, knows that, especially around Mardi Gras, it is a raucous place full of drinking and late-night partying. It can only be assumed that most teenagers are participating in the same activities as the twenty-one and up crowd, which is why McGehee has continued to bring in the Freedom from Chemical Dependency (FCD) speakers to try to dissuade students from drinking and using drugs during parades. But how well do these presentations actually work?
We interviewed 49 Upper school students before the FCD people came, and found that 56 percent of those who drink started at age 14 (only eight percent do not drink and two drink, but very rarely). However, the survey also contradicted what seem, to any teenager, to be the common misconceptions about underage drinking. Only 9 out of 39 drink to get drunk, while most only drink to get a buzz or tipsy. However, although many continue to get drunk, due to over drinking, many agreed with one girl, who stated, “I know where my limit is now, and I know that not all drinking reaches the same result. I guess…that those are the bad examples of drinking and I now know how to do it properly.” After one girl “missed out on an event that meant a lot to a friend because I couldn’t even stand,” she has “definitely stopped drinking as much; I monitor what I drink and how much.”
Even at Mardi Gras, many said they would be drinking less, because they need to be more aware of their surroundings, and be available to help out any friends who get themselves into messy situations. Although 62 percent admitted to having gotten themselves into an unpleasant situation, it was usually only from over drinking and getting sick, or just something that could be awkward when sobered up. Only two of the thirty admitted to getting themselves into bad situations multiple times. A group of girls who got sick at a friend’s house, and then caught by the dad, even had to resort to blaming “food poisoning” for their alcohol-induced pyrotechnics. But it doesn’t stop there. One girl had two friends who drank too much at a birthday party and ended up having to be rushed to the hospital with alcohol poisoning, where one ended up getting her stomach pumped.
Although one girl said that she “doesn’t plan on getting so drunk that I will pass out somewhere sketchy; if I did get to that state I know my friends would take care of me.” While this is a good plan, sometimes friends can not always be there, or will be too late. One girl remembered a story about a friend who “got really drunk with this guy, who was also really drunk, and he thought that she had given him the okay to have sex with her. She didn’t realize till the next morning what had happened, because her motor skills were impaired and she couldn’t say no.” Also in busy places such as St. Charles during Mardi Gras, it is hard to keep track of every last friend who has had a little to much to drink. For example, “this Mardi Gras, two people got really drunk and wandered off and we all panicked and went looking for them. When we finally found them, one was hooking up with her ex-boyfriend and the other, who has a boyfriend, was hooking up with a random guy. The one with the ex-boyfriend got really sick that night and doesn’t even remember seeing him, but I’m pretty sure the other girl remembers the night, and hasn’t told her boyfriend about it.” (*Editors note, the girl did tell her boyfriend later, and luckily, all is fine—but that might not be the case for every couple all the time.)
But why do teens drink at Mardi Gras, when they have heard all the FCD horror stories? And for that matter, why do they even begin drinking at all? One girl said, “as generic as this may sound, I like the feeling, it’s something different and something that I don’t do that often, so when I do drink, it feels kind of great.” Almost half said it was because they thought it looked like fun and wanted to see the effects for themselves. No one can deny that high school is one of the most awkward times a person goes through, and many people turn to alcohol to make themselves more comfortable with the people around them, allowing them to have more fun. In fact, all agreed that the main reason for drinking at Mardi Gras is to make it more fun and exciting. As one girl added, “even with all the bad things that happen, there are more fun drunk nights than bad drunk nights all in all, so I think the good times just outweigh the bad times.”
So that’s where FCD comes in, using people who have been there, done that and gotten the T-shirt to warn and educate girls about the dangers of drinking and drugging. So after the presentations this year, I interviewed Connie and Dave, who became users in 9th and 7th grade, respectively. Although Connie started at an early age, she continued in order to “enjoy the good times and deal with the hard times life presents,” much like girls during Mardi Gras and high school. However, when she finally realized it was a problem, her “cravings both mentally and physically for chemical highs was stronger than my will power to stop. For the next 7 years I tried many times to stop on my own but always found myself giving up and drinking.” Dave, a “functional drug addict,” was addicted for a long time before realizing that “drugs had gotten in the way of what I truly wanted and were slowing me down.” He, in agreement with Connie, adds, “The trouble is I was so connected to the drug feelings that I could not resist the craving to stop. I was addicted. I needed a lot of help and still do to stay away from drugs and alcohol.” Although many people drink to make them happier and more carefree, Connie warned, “a big part of my abusive drinking and drug use caused me to worry about far more things than a normal person worries about and even though I don’t use drugs or alcohol anymore at all my brain still worries and I suffer panic attacks and depression.”
Connie and Dave stressed that teen drinking could not be blamed on the city, because, according to Dave, “I have traveled all over the world for FCD and it’s funny, almost everywhere in the world people think [that] it is normal…for a significant number of teens to get drunk or high the same thing about their community, just for different reasons.” So whether we blame it on Bourbon Street or Mardi Gras, Connie says, “New Orleans, like most other places in the modern world, has accepted teenage drinking as “normal” or “likely” only after the surge in media advertisements for tobacco and alcohol geared toward young people in the past 40 years.”
While both expressed hope that drinking would soon become “old school,” Dave admitted that “it is going to take a major shift in consciousness from…the younger generation .” Connie said that young people need to demonstrate “that they will not conform to the media’s idea of them and if they choose to consume alcohol then they should do it with self respect and responsibility,” because “If drunks stood out as unusual or not the norm, we’d all have more fun…guaranteed!” Dave said that, more importantly, the shift needed to occur with people feeling comfortable with themselves in all situations, and getting to know themselves first, instead of getting to know an altered form of themselves. He adds, “Have a long, lasting relationship with the true you.”
The change that Dave and Connie expressed hope for might not be too far away, because although many teens do drink, there are plenty who wait. So how is it for these girls who have chosen to wait until they are twenty-one, or at least out of high school? One senior who has chosen not to drink in high school, and will probably not drink in college either, says she does so because “she has better things to do, that I want to remember.” Although she doesn’t drink, she understands that many teenagers drink, and still goes out with her drinker friends and has fun with them. However, she says her amount of fun “depends on how drunk they are. If I have to take care of them, it’s not fun.” She adds, “when they are not over the top it’s fun, because they match my natural crazy level.” Drinking among her friends does affect her sometimes, because “it just makes people not want to hang out with me, because they feel guilty drinking in front of me, but it really doesn’t bother me. They avoid hanging out with me, because they think it will make it awkward, but it’s just annoying that they don’t understand that I don’t care and just want to hang out with them.” She says she has felt pressure to drink in order to “feel more included,” but, luckily, her “willpower’s strong enough, and my friends don’t pressure me, so the pressure is so minute, it doesn’t even matter.” She said the main way she resists any pressure she might experience is by “knowing that I can still have fun, and being self-assured that I can make the best out of any situation, no matter what I’m doing. I know I don’t need to do anything extra to have fun, I can just be myself!” However, another non-drinking girl is not so accommodating of her friends’ drinking. She personally chose not to drink because “I have seen the way my friends act when they are drunk and I don’t want to act like that. Also I like to think I can have fun without drinking,” adding, “I used to have fun when they did but recently it has been becoming more aggravating because they know that I will always be sober and they sometimes take advantage of that and expect me to drive or take care of them when they get overly drunk.” While the first girl said that her friends’ moderate drinking could make their time out a little more entertaining, the second girl disagreed: “sometimes [their drinking] puts me in a bad mood and ruins my fun because I have to take care of them.”
So to those of you who chose to wait: Congratulations! For those of you who do drink: it’s not too late to take a break until year older. And for those of you who, for whatever reason, are going to continue to drink: as cliché as it might sound, be careful, and be sure to not take your always-Sober Sally for granted!